Friday, September 20, 2024

I'm okay

My life revolves around therapy twice a week. Each session takes 2 to 3 days to recover from. Most of the time, I'm sitting, processing and doing nothing else.
There are no projects being worked on. No recipes being baked. No trips out the door unless absolutely necessary. 
I am an unstable Multiple Autistic Incest Prostitution Survivor and that is what 100% of my life is about. Healing from what others have cruelly done to me.
I'm okay.
Just surviving. 

Tuesday, September 10, 2024

Woke up in Chaos

Well, this hasn't happened in awhile. It's been weeks, more likely many months since we awoke filled with chaos, conflicting and rapid thoughts, rampant anxiety and destabilized to the max.
Anti-anxiety medication First Thing in the morning. We had a chiropractic appointment which we botched because our bone cracker sucks. He's hit and miss. Today, complete miss but we were able to attend, get our treatment and leave Without incident. 
Yesterday, therapy, bunch of Usses, working on new focus, learning about Lincoln, the early beginning years of 0 to 5 when we lived there and the details of the rampant sexual abuses by dad and his friends every week.
Yesterday, learned of some "games" played under the card table while the men were between card games. We were fed beer, even remembered the taste of it in therapy.
They'd sit naked, hide coins and a folded dollar bill and make little, way way little Usses hunt for it. 
Many under table, rather public naked men games in the living room there which was way different from the one-on-one sexual assaults in the bedroom.
Stirred the pot of new unheard from Peoples. 
The Lincoln Peoples and everything that happened to them is our foundation, every thing we are built on. Fixing, helping, healing them, heals all of Usses. They are Core People by default, by their very age. Core means it effects all of Usses. Vital stuff.
It I'd Sooooo frickin' uncomfortable to talk about!! Can I scream that here please?!!!!!
Awful shit man. Just awful.
Hate the work but doing it. Fucking hate it to hell but doing it 

Friday, August 30, 2024

How I know I'm Multiple, or Waking Up in Strange Places

I'm learning about my MPD, Multiple Personality Disorder which I was diagnosed with around 1998, I think. What is different about MeWe as opposed to Singletons.
I wake up in strange places. Today, I woke up in a place called Therapist's Office, TO. The Others of Usses have been there since 2016. Today was my first time. I literally took my index finger and poked the Therapist's upper arm to make sure she was real. She accepted this with a smile cause she knows we are MeWes and do safe but unusual things. I was checking reality which I often do with my index finger. I have to touch to see what is real and what is not.
Yesterday, I briefly woke up on the highway around a place called Peoria. Now that's a fun name. Some one else's was driving. I just found myself looking at old houses along the street.
I also woke up in a store that smelled awful like old books. We were looking at the old books on the shelves. I don't know why or which books were interesting so I went back Inside.
I pop in and out of this waking reality home to massive amounts of massive humans. That's why I know I'm Multiple. The Singletons don't do that.

Tuesday, August 20, 2024

I never questioned

I never questioned the incest or prostitution. It was always just the normal way of life for me and within a family that approved of it.
At 60, looking back, after thirty years of therapy, I can see it now. And it makes me so sad. That was normal for me. Sexual acts with my father, grandmother and strange men.
I never asked why me? Or how can I make this stop? My parents had taught me this. I believed them. It happened multiple times every week. Why would I ever question it?

Monday, August 5, 2024

Writing about Incest and Childhood Sexual Abuses

 It feels important on the verge of imperative to write about the incest memories that are surfacing after they have been withheld and hidden deeply within my self. 

These things, these events, even though they are hideous and immoral and difficult to hear about, they really did happen to me. Some people are allowed to talk about their past but incest survivors usually do not.

Secrets are like monsters we keep chained up inside that are eating us away, eroding our health and esteem. We feed the monsters with our continuing silence, day-by-day. I'm done feeding the monster. I'm no longer using great efforts to keep them chained inside.

Writing about Incest Out Loud means the perpetrators no longer control me. Their idle threats have died along with most of them. 

Today, I remembered how the incest began with my evil paternal grandmother. I was five years old. My family had just moved back to their hometown of Grand Rapids, Michigan. Not only was little me getting used to a new family home and neighborhood, quite dramatically I inherited relatives to interact with every week.

I recall my dad taking me over to the house on Valley Street. Dad was trying to explain the relationship, what grandparents were. I was Autistic, so the concept seemed really difficult to grasp but it turns out my dad had a mom and dad, too. This just seemed way out there. I found myself in this other new house complete with all different furniture, walls and smells. The carpet was thick and dark brown. Dark brown stairs, piano, dining room table; it was quite dark especially if it was night time out and only the lights illuminated the interior.

I stood in awe, or frozen, as the case may be. When I was overwhelmed, I could not physically move. I guess you would say I had that "deer in the headlights" look to me. Frozen in place and highly startled. Too much emotion. Too much all new surrounding me with the actual place and then these "relatives" some of whom I had seen a few times before but briefly, and they were wearing different clothes and hair now.

It was loud, too. People make noises when they greet each other. And if there are many people to greet, the noise just goes on and on; one person making noise after the next person making noise. There were a lot of people at grandmother's house as the aunts and uncles all wanted to see us because we were close now, and not living across the state or states away as we had been.

I guess it would be safe to say that there were always ambivalent feelings about going to grandmother's house, on my part. The food was usually plentiful and good but the people were a mixture. I mean, some were nice and all but some were just plain loud and too touchy.

I don't know how long it was after our move back to the city before dad brought just me and a sibling or two over to grandmother's house during the late afternoon or early evening. The house and the people living in it, still felt new and scary.

Grandmother announced with a smile and a smirk, that "Amy needs a bath" and since I was, once again, frozen in place because I had no clue what she meant, the grandmother grabbed my hand and started directing me up the living room stairs with her.

The stairs were scary and novel, covered in this thick carpet and they twisted a bit on the first few. Well, I guess it was more like, there were two or three steps, then a small landing which held a set of shelves, then the stairs turned like 90 degrees and headed up rather steeply. It felt like I was walking into an unknown cave or second floor dungeon as it was dark up there before grandmother turned on the light. A tunnel, that's what it looked like, a thick, black tunnel I was being led into. I was definitely scared of this big unknown. I was being separated from my dad and my brother and taken to a new place with this still new person called grandmother.

"I needed a bath?" what did that mean? I had already been bathed that day but, somehow I had gotten dirty and needed to be washed. Boy, my mother would have been more than a trifle upset if she knew all her preparations for going over there were for naught. Mom made sure I was clean and in clean clothes and my hair was brushed, just for grandmother, yet she found me "dirty". This was not good. I felt like I was in trouble, in addition to my overall massive confusion.

This is were it got really weird, really bad, uncomfortable and abusive. You don't have to read it if you don't want to. It is disturbing. I have to write it for my own sake and sanity. It hurts just to think about and it will hurt more to write about but then, only then, can the healing begin.

The bathroom door shut behind us. She started the water running in this strange bathtub that was way different from the one at the new family house. She began to disrobe, talking and chuckling and trying to say things in fun ways. I didn't move. There was this funny looking, naked lady in front of me. I couldn't move. I didn't know what to do or what was happening or what was expected of me.

So, she undressed me. Uncomfortable was an understatement. I still stood there, unflinching. Smiling, she reached her hand into the water and made splashing sounds but resolute and confused, I stood. She ended up lifting me into the tall-walled bathtub. My feet felt the warm water rushing around me. Grandmother sat down at the not faucet end of the tub. Talking, she was always talking; her lips didn't stop moving much. She wasn't forcing me to sit. She was trying to coax me into sitting all by myself. After a bit, that worked. I sat. The faucet at my back had been turned off. There is an eerie silence when you are naked in a tub of water. It's like you are in a different world and all the outside sounds are muffled.

I'll summarize what happened next. Grandmother started washing herself with a washcloth. Then she would wash me with the same washcloth. Then, she wanted me to wash her with the cloth but I still couldn't figure out how to make my body move in such a dire, unpredictable situation. Again, she grabbed my hand and prompted it to move on her as she saw fit. I was grossed up but still deep enough in shock not to display any emotion. My mind could not grab the gravity of the situation or what was taking place. At some point, all the washing of bodies stopped. I was again, helped out of the tub and thoroughly, uncomfortably dried by her after she had dried herself with the towel, smiling and making light remarks the whole time.

Still stunned, she dressed me, fixed my hair and led me back down the stairs. The people in the living room cheered, or at least, it felt like they were cheering, smiling at me with big teeth and welcoming me back into the fold "now that I was all nice and clean".

This is me, my story, my family and the things that happened when I was a child, an Autistic child being introduced to yet another family member and more incest.

Thursday, July 25, 2024

Some Switches are Longer Than Others

To transition from one personality to another is called Switching. Most switches are the same, nothing special just like a blink of the eye.
Then there are the transitions that go from a Big, older, established Alter Person down to a Little, someone younger than 7. Those transitions have a deep within, visceral, sinking feeling wherein the body, especially the feet and legs feel heavy. There may or maybe not be a general feeling of fogginess and the slipping away of consciousness.
Today, the Switch near the end of our therapy hour, to the Driver who drives Usses home, was a Looonnnnggg Switch. Long in that the mental distance from the alter person Out and Talking, probably a Little, to Me the Driver of the Day seems like a great distance. 
Most alters lived within an Inner Structure, a large house or mansion. It was a short distance between floors or wings. Now, just since a couple months ago, the second house was revealed, it surfaced. That previously hidden Inner Structure contains all the whores, the prostituted alter people. 
At first house 1 and house 2 were a great distance apart. Over the past weeks, the houses have grown closer in distance to the point now wherein I could reach my hand out my window in house 1 and rap on the window of house 2.
They are strangers to me, those in house 2.
But today, in therapy, I think that house 2 people were Out and then I got pulled out of house 1 to drive. And the area, the distance from that Out person to Me was confusing, disorienting and very long.
I'm so confused. Like waking up halfway through the movie a week after it started playing. I know. Makes no sense. That's how it feels.
I want to write, email the therapist and apologize over and over. Not sure exactly why. Maybe to cover all my bases. Maybe who that was Out said or did something wrong and I'm just used to apologizing so I won't get hit so much. I don't know. Really I don't.
I'm confused but old enough to be a good driver, old enough to get the groceries and cook us up some dinner.
Not sure I know exactly who I am but I know my way around, albeit apologetically and with confused tears.
It isn't easy being Multiple sometimes.

I'm okay

My life revolves around therapy twice a week. Each session takes 2 to 3 days to recover from. Most of the time, I'm sitting, processing ...