Here are the factors:
Time- we showed up, terrified of course, twice a week for 12 weeks. We showed up which was huge and courageous on our part. Each time one or some of us could check the new place out, becoming acclimated a little more each visit.
Common Interest- after over 4 years in therapy, we finally found a neutral outside interest that we both shared. Small talk. Finally, we discovered something that we could talk about that enabled us to interact.
Proximity- when everyone got vaccinated and we could sit closer, our People felt safe again. Therapist across the room didn't help us to feel like we could confide or share easily. We whisper frequently. Now, therapist can hear us.
People- the older adults started overriding, showing up more often than the frightened, hurt Littles. Where a Big goes, a Little is sure to tag along.
Therapy feels like it's real again, not just a test or hurdle to jump through.
I'm sure we will continue to have nervous people show up but I feel we have a greater percentage of alters that are going to make this continuing transition easier and easier.
I gotta say, We Are Brave. We are Courageous. And We try really, really hard to do the right thing, the best thing, what we need to do.
Never give up.
Never surrender.
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